Challenges

First of all, let me debut Suchitra's colorful casts.  Not the best picture, I'll try to get a better one later, but still, pretty awesome, huh?  As you can see, she has already collected quite a few signatures.

Today was a day of challenges.  It feels like our insurance company is trying to make this as difficult as possible.  I know, what else is new when it comes to health insurance?  The first challenge was that Providence will not approve us to get a reclining wheelchair with leg rests from Gillette, which we were going to bring back when we come back in six weeks to get her casts off.  We can get one at home, but this causes a big problem as far as getting to the airport.  I did not bring our wheelchair from home, since I was told that we would get one here.  We can't really use a regular cab since I can't leave Suchitra with the cab driver while I go in search of a wheelchair (MSP is not one of those airports where they just leave wheelchairs available near the front).  I called a medical transport company, but they wanted to charge $125, which I would rather spend on physical therapy (which Providence also won't cover enough of).  Thankfully, I decided to call my cousin Erica Timko who lives north of St. Paul and ask her for the huge favor, and she very kindly is going to rearrange her day to drive us to the airport tomorrow.  Thank goodness for the Timko connection!

And then to really add to my stress, the nurse just told me tonight that Providence won't cover Gillette's pharmacy to fill the prescriptions for Suchitra's pain medications to take home.  I will try to take the prescriptions to Walgreen's tomorrow morning and get them filled there.  She has transitioned from the epidural and IV and is now taking a major dose of oral pain medications - Oxycodone, Valium and Tylenol.  I don't think you can just quit taking those all of a sudden.  So we better figure out a way to get them somehow before we get on the airplane.

Before we came, I made a lot of phone calls to Gillette, Providence, and our primary care physician to make sure that the surgery itself would be covered; however, I didn't realize that we would have these specific issues with the wheelchair and medication.  I feel like Gillette could have helped to make sure these things would be covered ahead of time, since they know what has to be approved separately.  However, the only thing I can do at this point is just practice my patience and trust that things will work out OK somehow.

The other significant challenge of today was figuring out how to move Suchitra around with her new leg accessories.  She's a LOT heavier on the lower end now, and she was already on the edge of too heavy for me to lift before.  I really struggled today to move her around between the bed, wheelchair and toilet.  At first I was moving her with the knee immobilizers on, but that didn't work too well, and then the doctor came and said we didn't have to keep them on all the time.  And, poor thing, it is still painful for her to be moved, although each day gets a little better.  Of course, at home the setup will be different so we will have to develop new techniques.  With some practice, I think we will figure it out as best we can.

Casting day!

Things are moving right along here in the orthopedic unit.  Saturday and Sunday were uneventful - Suchitra spent most of each day sleeping, and when she was awake, she watched TV.  She is not as cranky as she was after the rhizotomy, but I am looking forward to her getting back to her non-medicated self.  Neither of us slept very well Saturday night, but they let us sleep in Sunday morning, which was nice.  They decided to turn up her epidural for Sunday night, and also give the Valium a little more frequently, in hopes that she would get more sleep.  This worked out well and we both slept pretty well Sunday night.  No sleeping in this morning though - an orthopedic resident woke us up at 6:15 am!

At about 9:15 the nurses came to take Suchitra to get her casts on.  She was taken into a separate room where we met a nice man named Laster.  He cut off her long bandages, which had a bunch of stuffing underneath them so when he cut them off, it looked like a stuffed animal's insides coming out.  Then he very carefully and expertly constructed her new casts.  They go up to just below her knees and all the way down to the bottom of her feet, though her toes are exposed.  I'll post pictures next time because right now she is prone and all covered up.  The casts are made of fiberglass and they have a bar in between to keep them positioned correctly.  It can be screwed on and off with a little key.  Then Laster signed her cast, "Laster the Caster."  Awesome!

Another guy came to fit her with new knee immobilizers, which she was a little disappointed about because we had thought that she might get a break from KIs while in her casts.  However, these are soft so she can wear them without pants underneath.  We don't know the wearing schedule yet.

After casting, she had X-rays taken to make sure the alignment is correct.  Then we came back here to her room where they turned off the epidural.  From now on she will have only oral pain medication.  Lots of questions yet to be answered, so I'm sticking close to the room to be here when people come by to tell us stuff.

Another successful surgery

Surgery went great.  Dr. Novacheck sounded very pleased.  He said that all three procedures went well, and that she has really healthy bones and tissue so they were good to work with.  There was another orthopedic surgeon named Dr. Healy who worked with Dr. Novacheck.  Each of them did one side of her leg, so it went pretty quickly.  She was done with surgery around 10:45, I think.  Then while she was still under anesthesia, they molded new AFOs, so she will get those after the casts come off.

I was able to go back to the PACU and see her around 12:15.  She came out of the anesthesia much, much more calmly than she has in the past, so that was a relief.  She also didn't seem as groggy and loopy, which I think was a result of using the epidural for pain control rather than the pump that she had with SDR.  It sounded like the medication spread out well from the epidural site in her back despite scar tissue from the SDR and tethered spinal cord surgery, so the anesthesiologist's choice was good.

After SDR, she recovered in the Rehab Unit, but this time she was taken to the Orthopedic Unit.  Apparently this unit was renovated just this past June, and I was super happy to see that we had a single room - no chance of a roommate - and it's very nice.  It has a shower in the bathroom and a fridge!  No more showering across the hall.  It's also quieter and just more pleasant.  There is a nice glider right next to the bed.

She recovered so well yesterday compared to what I remember about the first day of SDR recovery.  Some sleeping, but she also watched TV and talked on the phone.  She didn't fuss or cry that much at all.  The nurses came in periodically to administer pain medication and shift her position in the bed.  She has big puffy bandages all the way from her toes to her hips that look like this:

And now check out this big smile:

Last night, however, was a different story.  She slept pretty well from about 9 to 10:30 pm, but then not well again until 6:30 am.  Off and on dozing and lots of crying and fussing.... I think she was in pain from muscle spasms, and as the night wore on, she started to get anxious about not sleeping and that added to her upset.  She would wake up, start crying, we would press the nurse button, but then when the nurses would come in, she would quiet down, maybe because she didn't want to seem so upset in front of them.  This was pretty similar to the first night after SDR but I had forgotten.

She slept well from 6:30 am to maybe 9:45 am or so.  Then she had breakfast, got washed and her gown changed, and they just turned her onto her stomach to help stretch out her hip muscles.  She is watching the Disney channel right now.  I'm soooo tired.... maybe I can get a nap in this afternoon.

It sounds like today and tomorrow may be kind of the same.  Monday will be a big day though.  The epidural will come out.  Her long puffy bandages will be replaced by casts from the feet to below the knees.  These casts will stay on for the next six weeks; we'll come back here for a couple days in early September to get the casts off and get her new AFOs.

Thank you everyone for the messages.  I read them all to her and they make her so happy!

Back to Gillette

Suchitra and I flew to Minnesota on Wednesday after having a ball at the 11th Timko Family Reunion in Cannon Beach, Oregon.  We are so lucky to have such a cool family that has been reuniting either in the West or Midwest every three years from all over the country since 1984.  Spending time with family is pretty much Suchitra's favorite thing to do, so it was a blissful four days and difficult to say goodbye.  We are excited that the 2016 reunion will be held at Lake Okoboji, Iowa, not far from the farmlands of southern Minnesota where the family began in 1895 when John and Anna Timko, both immigrants from Czechoslovakia, got married.  Over the next 25 years they had 11 children, eight of whom survived to adulthood, the youngest one of which was my grandma, Philomine Timko Goracke.  The reunion is for the descendants of all of those eight children to get together to catch up, eat a lot, have a good time, and try not to get kicked out of our hotel rooms.  We used to send my grandma out in her nightie to placate the hotel security guards, but sadly she is no longer with us so we have to keep the noise down a little more than we otherwise would.

Monday's sandcastle competition - note Suchitra with the official judges, probably trying to influence their votes.

Our travel here on Wednesday was somewhat eventful in that when we checked in for our flight, Frontier informed us that the flight had been cancelled but they were able to re-route us so that we would still get to Minneapolis that night, but not till midnight.  Instead of flying through Denver we would go to Seattle on Alaska Airlines and on to Minneapolis via Sun Country Airlines.  I was a little dubious about trusting Sun Country Airlines to take us between two very non-sunny northern cities, but they did a fine job.  Suchitra is not a fan of last-minute changes and uncertainty, so I had to do quite a bit of soothing and encouraging.  I also shelled out for a fancy dinner at Anthony's Fish House in the Seattle airport with the beautiful enormous floor-to-ceiling windows.

This is right before she read the menu and picked out London Broil for dinner.  She is such an avid little gourmet carnivore.

So we didn't get to our hotel that night until almost 1 am, but at least we made it!  I have to mention how well she did walking through the airports - we didn't bring her wheelchair along, we only used airport wheelchairs a little bit, and she walked the rest.  Her endurance has improved markedly from a year ago.  She is able to walk much further with less fatigue.  About a month ago she walked all the way to a park near our house and then back for a total of 1.2 miles!  I was really amazed by that.  Her balance and stability are still quite poor and she falls a lot, especially when distracted or rushing, but SDR wasn't expected to change that very much.  The biggest change, of course, is that her legs are much more flexible and relaxed.  After a lot of hard work in physical therapy, this has led to her being able to climb and descend stairs extremely well, and she also has been able to dress and undress herself every day.  This wasn't possible before the surgery because her legs were so tight.  It has been a huge improvement for both of us!


Since her selective dorsal rhizotomy surgery last fall, we returned to Gillette once in March of this year.  At that time we met with Dr. Novacheck and Dr. Ward, both of whom were on the team that recommended SDR for Suchitra back in June 2012.  In March they confirmed that she should have orthopedic surgery to correct the misaligned bones that resulted from her years of spasticity.  We scheduled the surgery for today, July 26, 2013.

We arrived a day early so she could do another gait lab, which was a repeat of the testing she had done in June 2012 that gave the doctors the information they needed to decide whether she would benefit from SDR.  The gait lab involves a lot of measurements, as well as being hooked up to electrodes and then videotaped while walking back and forth, so they can study her gait.  It makes a computer image that is just like the images they use to create video games or digital animation for movies.  Also the floor is loaded with sensors that transmit information about how hard and where her feet strike the ground.  Then they do an oxygen test that measures her oxygen use at rest and while walking.  The whole thing takes 2-1/2 hours and she was pretty tired out by the end.  We ate lunch and chilled for a while after that.  We also paid a visit to the rehab unit where we spent five weeks last fall after her SDR.  We saw quite a few of the nurses who had taken care of her before so she was super happy about that.

Then we met with Dr. Novacheck, the orthopedic surgeon, to get his final recommendations.  He explained that he felt she should have three specific procedures.  One is a derotation of both her femurs.  Currently her femurs (the long thigh bone) are rotated inward.  In fact, you can kind of see in the picture below how her knees are turning in.  They will make an incision high up on the side of each hip, cut the bone, turn it, and insert a plate and screws to hold it in its new place.  Second, they will go into both of her feet through the heels and insert extra bone to lengthen and re-orient one of the bones in her mid-foot.  This will straighten out her feet and restore her arch (she is totally flat-footed now), giving her better stability.  Finally, they will go into the backs of each calf muscle and lengthen the superficial upper muscle which is still tight as a result of the former spasticity.  Because they do these separate procedures all during the same surgery, the whole thing is called SEMLS, for Single Event Multi Level Surgery.

The combination of these three procedures should result in better alignment all the way down her legs.  When she walks, you can see that her legs turn inward and sometimes her feet trip over each other.  That should decrease.  Currently, with her femurs out of alignment, her hip muscles and knee muscles cannot be strong at the same time.  So with femurs in the proper place, those muscles will get stronger and her walking will definitely improve.  Also, with the foot lengthening and arch restoration, she should have some improvement in her balance and she should be able to pick up her feet better than she does now - she drags her toes along the ground quite a bit.  Dr. Novacheck said that with these tweaks at the upper and lower ends of her legs, and of course further physical therapy, his hope is that her entire gait will become more consistent and stable.

I thought it was interesting that even though her hamstrings are still tight, he does not want to lengthen those muscles during this surgery.  He thinks that when her femurs are derotated, she will lose a little length in those bones, which will give the hamstrings a little room to catch up lengthwise.  Also, the other improvements may make a difference in her hamstrings.  He doesn't want to over-correct and then cause problems that wouldn't have been there otherwise.  I appreciate this conservative approach.

I forgot to ask him about the gait lab results but I did ask him this morning.  He said that the biggest difference is in how much her knees are able to bend when she walks.  They actually hyper-extend a bit, but this surgery should correct that.  Surprisingly, her oxygen usage was not much better than before SDR.  I thought we would see a gain there, since it really seems like she has better stamina than before.

We went swimming in the hotel pool and hot tub last night and had Thai food delivered to the room.  She slept really well and woke up with a positive attitude this morning as you can see by the smile on her face:

We came back to the hospital at 7 am this morning and she went into surgery at 8:30 am.  Before surgery she got to put on the gown that has a little hole in the side where they pump in warm air through a tube.  Nice.

We also spoke with the anesthesiologist who discussed two different options for pain control.  Last time she had a pain pump but this time he recommended an epidural, as it will involve less narcotics and risk of complication that could land her in the ICU.  The drawback to the epidural is that with the scarring in her back from the two previous surgeries (SDR and tethered spinal cord surgery before that) the medicine may not spread as well as needed.  If that happens they can change the pain delivery method.  As a lay person I always feel at a disadvantage in understanding these kinds of choices, but tend to go with the doctors' recommendations as long as they explain their rationale well enough, and the doctors here are really good at doing that.  It makes me think about what my clients must experience when I talk to them about their legal issues.

Suchitra didn't even want me to walk back with her when they wheeled her to the OR, and when the OR nurse called to give me an update, I asked whether she went off to sleep okay and the nurse said, "Yes, but she was so sassy we didn't want to put her to sleep."  She is definitely an expert at charming everyone she meets.  Next time I see her she will probably be more crabby than sassy, but I'm counting on Valium and the Disney channel to get us through the next few days.  We'll be here till August July 31 (earlier error - we're here just a week).  I'll write more about the recovery process in the next post.  Thank you for reading!

Goodbye to Minnesota

I can't believe this is the last post I will write from Gillette - we leave tomorrow about 4:30 pm and arrive in Portland at 7:49 pm.  I can't really say that the time has gone by quickly, but I can say that I am so glad we came.  I feel very optimistic that this surgery will make an enormous difference in Suchitra's (and my) life and we are beyond lucky to have had the opportunity to do it.

This past Wednesday we had a conference to plan for her discharge and returning home.  Staff from all of the departments who participated in Suchitra's care were there, and on the phone we had all of the key people from Peninsula Elementary in Portland, which was awesome.  Having them up-to-date on her condition will make the transition so much smoother.  Her physical therapist here and the physical therapist who will be working with her at home have corresponded separately.

We do have a lot of work ahead of us to realize all the benefits of this surgery.  On Monday she will start physical therapy at an outpatient clinic 4 times a week, after school, for at least the next month, then tapering down to 1-2 days a week.  On the days we don't go to therapy, we have a home strengthening program with many exercises to do.  We have a shorter home stretching program to do 7 days a week twice a day.  She needs to spend 30 minutes prone every day 3 times a day.  They are going to provide her with a stander at school so she can do one of the 3 prones in that.

We also need to build in activities throughout her day to reinforce all this, such as walking on her knees, crawling, and sitting cross-legged.  She is still too weak to walk more than a step or two without help.  However, she can walk upstairs quite well with help, so getting into our house will be OK.  Then once in the house she is supposed to either crawl or walk on her knees.  She should be walking more independently (with a walker) in a couple weeks or so.  She will have to use a walker at first, then back to crutches, just like she did before surgery.  Whether she gets to the point of not needing any assistive device is yet to be seen, but I have a feeling that her own determination will get her there.

This weekend my dad and I watched Suchitra's video from when we came here in June for the evaluation, and then I showed it to Suchitra.  The difference in her gait from then to now is so striking that it gives all of us great motivation to keep going.  When I get home I will figure out a way to post those videos on here because they are just so cool.  I will also try to keep posting periodically to let you all know about her progress.  Thanks so much for following us - it's so cool to have so much support!

At this point we plan to return in six months (at the end of February, brrr!) for another evaluation, at which time we will plan for the next and hopefully final surgery next summer.  That operation is called SEMLS (single-event multi-level surgery) and based on what the surgeon mentioned in June, she will probably need to have her femurs (thigh bones) and tibias (shin bones) on both sides de-rotated, as well as possibly something done with her feet.  The cool thing is that they can do all of those procedures at one time.  I believe that is a fairly unique way to do it, though I do not know yet whether it can also be done in Portland or not.  That's something I still have to research.  And of course it will all depend on her progress so I'm not positive that's what will happen, we'll just have to see.  I did understand that while the rhizotomy will have decreased her oxygen use by 30%, the additional orthopedic surgery will reduce it to 50% of her pre-surgery level.  That would give her a LOT more endurance for walking and other movement.

On Friday I scheduled her for swimming lessons starting next Sunday afternoon through early December.  She has done so well in the pool, and this will give her a fun way to build strength and endurance, since we can't go back to horseback riding until early January.

My dad is here to help us get back to Portland.  This afternoon we had an insanely good time at the Minnesota Twins v. Detroit Tigers baseball game at Target Field.  Beautiful day, really nice ball park.

The Twins didn't win but two pretty exciting things happened.  Miguel Cabrera of the Tigers hit a home run and batted two other runners in as well, which means that as of right now he has theTriple Crown - the most home runs, most runs batted in, and highest batting average in the league - which nobody has won since Carl Yastrzemski in 1967.  It all depends on what happens tomorrow with the rest of the games that end the regular season, but it would be pretty exciting if he were the first to win it in 45 years.  Plus he is a super humble and community-oriented guy so he deserves it.  We were sitting above left field and Cabrera's home run bounced right off the rail below us and was caught by a guy not ten feet away from us.  I ran down and took a picture of him with the potentially-history-making ball.  Then I told him why I was excited about it and he had never heard of the Triple Crown.

 
The other exciting thing was that one of the Twins players hit a Grand Slam home run - i.e. a home run with all the bases loaded so four runs batted in.  Unfortunately this was not enough since Detroit beat them with six runs.  Not to be disloyal to the Twins, but it was pretty cool that Detroit won since this gives them a shot at getting into the playoffs.  The Twins are now last in the league so they don't have any chance.

Here are the baseball aficionados enjoying their perch. Of course we could not properly enjoy the game without some Twins headgear:

Lots of news

Sorry for the lack of updates.  We have a lot to report!  The reason I haven't posted lately is that for several days I have been fighting with my computer and phone to get more videos uploaded to the blog.  I'm finally giving up - I don't know whether the problem is the phone, this computer, or the blog, but for whatever reason, I haven't been able to upload any more videos of Suchitra's walking.  I'm really bummed about this as it would have been so fun to show you how well she is doing.  I'll just have to describe it the best I can.

They have had her doing Lokomat sessions every day since she first started them the week before last.  Last Tuesday, after her session, the therapist had her walk on the treadmill while she was still suspended from the harness, but without the robot guiding her legs.  So the treadmill was moving but she had to walk manually.  She looked good - definitely hesitant and dragging her feet a little bit, but bending her knees much more and using a heel-toe pattern that she never had before.

This past Friday I took another video in which she was walking along the ground with two long parallel bars for support on either side.  The therapist was moving with her, closely supporting her and making sure her gait was as steady as possible.  Just the difference from Tuesday to Friday was amazing.  Even though her knees periodically buckle because she is still weak, her gait is so much more normalized.  I just couldn't believe it, watching her.  The other cool thing about the Lokomat is that each day she carries a little more of her own weight and does a little more of the work herself.  So it's a good way to transition back to independent walking.

It's pretty cool to watch her get used to her new body.  I have not heard her say one word of complaint about not being able to move as quickly as she used to, or not being as strong as she used to be.  It's hard to get much description or self-reflection out of her, but as best I can tell, she definitely notices how much more comfortable and loose her body is, and she seems to accept that the hard work now is going to pay off for her in the long run.

She started pool sessions last week and did great there too.  Here are a couple pictures:

In the pool they have her stretching, kicking and walking.  The addition of the pool made her have a really full schedule.  All of last week and continuing into this week, in addition to her daily Lokomat sessions, she does two other physical therapy appointments and two occupational therapy appointments each day.  Then there are occasional sessions of music therapy, therapeutic recreation, and psychology.  Plus, she has to get in three 60-minute sessions of the stander and prone cart every day.  And don't forget school, although it is only for 30 minutes each day.  With such busy days she is very tired by the end of them.

All of last week an occupational therapist came in our room each morning and helped her get dressed.  She still has some tight muscles and is a bit stiff from the surgery, but she is able to move in different ways than she ever could before.  I can tell that with practice, she is going to become an independent dresser sooner rather than later.

It was so nice to have my mom visit.  It made last week go a lot quicker for me than the previous weeks.  With her rental car we were able to get out of the hospital and explore St. Paul while Suchitra was busy.  I took her to the Minnesota History Center which I had toured by myself the previous week and loved.  My favorite parts were the exhibit on the World War II generation, the tour through Minnesota weather (blizzards!  tornadoes!  mosquitoes!), and another section where they recreated an actual house from a St. Paul neighborhood and told the stories of who has lived there through the years, from the German immigrants who built it, to the Italians who worked on the railroads in the 20s and 30s, to the white working-class families of the 60s and 70s, and finally the Hmong families in the 80s to 2000s.  Apparently this area has the highest Hmong population of any metro area in the U.S.  The museum really impressed me with its creative and dynamic way of communicating what could be dry history through hands-on activities and great use of technology.  For example, you could sit in a recreated basement and hear, see and feel what it might be like to live through a tornado.  I wish Oregon had as cool an institution.  We have some great stories to tell too!

My mom and I also strolled a neighborhood and had a delicious dinner out with Suchitra at a nice restaurant downtown (thank you Claire and Julia!).  And we attended the broadcast of Prairie Home Companion at the Fitzgerald Theater on Saturday afternoon!  I have been a PHC fan since college.  My grandma, who grew up in Minnesota, liked the show too, although I remember she was a little annoyed that he focused so much on Lutherans and not enough on her people, the Catholics.  She would have appreciated this marquee at a nearby theater:

As further proof that Minnesota is not just for Lutherans, I noticed a giant Scientology church across the street from the Fitzgerald Theater.  I'm not sure the picture does justice to what an imposing fortress this place was:

Did you know that Garrison Keillor never uses notes when he does the "News from Lake Wobegon"?  He just wanders around the stage extemporizing.  What a memory.  If you saw the movie, the stage looks the same:

The reason I didn't feel badly about leaving Suchitra at the hospital while we were enjoying the radio show was that my cousin Greg, who lives in Nederland, Colorado, came to visit for the weekend.  It was so awesome to see him and we had such a great time together.  I think he played about 50 rounds of Uno and over two hours of catch with her baseball and mitt.  I am so lucky to have such wonderful relatives and friends.  We are totally enjoying the cards, gifts, and support from all of you!  Thank you so much!

Now that we are in the home stretch, I am thinking ahead to what it will be like when we come home.  We have a "family conference" scheduled for Wednesday that will include her care team here and several people from her school at home.  I am hoping to get a lot of questions answered there. 

We leave this Sunday and next week Suchitra will start outpatient physical therapy four days a week at a clinic in Vancouver.  She won't be able to walk outside of therapy for some period of time I'm not sure about.  I can't remember if I already mentioned this, but I was told not to expect her to return to her pre-surgery level of functioning until maybe 12 weeks after the surgery.  Despite this, I feel so encouraged thus far about the progress she has already made that it seems reasonable to think she is going to improve a lot further.

Here is a cute picture that I took after my Aunt Anne sent her a pillowcase to brighten the room:

Remembering Aunt Pam

Tonight we are grieving the loss of my dear aunt-by-marriage, Pam Guevara.  She was diagnosed with brain cancer almost exactly four months ago and passed away at home early this morning, surrounded by family, friends and enormous love.  Pam and my mom were pregnant with their first children, my cousin Kimberly and me, at the same time.  Pam and her husband Dan (my uncle Rey's brother) moved to southern Oregon around the same time that my parents, grandparents, aunt and uncle, and several other family friends did, around 1978-80.  Basically we all just brought the party up from southern California to southern Oregon!  We cousins were so lucky to grow up surrounded by close family and friends - we celebrated holidays together, picnicked and fished together, and cut down our Christmas trees in the woods together.  Pam was an elementary school teacher in Grants Pass for many years and loved helping children.  In the past few years she and Suchitra developed a special relationship.  Along with many, many other people, we will both miss her kind, warm presence in our lives more than I can express.

Kimberly wrote a really beautiful tribute to her mom that I would like to share here:  "She is the most amazing woman and role model as a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend and teacher and we are blessed to have had her here with us for as long as we had her.  There is a huge void in all our lives, and while we struggle to cope, we know too that her legacy of love, joy in living, compassion, servant's heart and spirit of forgiveness will live on forever in all of us."  I can't think of a better way to remember Pam, and even though it's so hard not be with our family at this sad time, these words are very comforting to me.

This weekend we were super lucky to get a visit from my longtime friend and bar exam study partner, Heba Nimr.  I would not have gotten through law school without Heba.  Literally, would have bombed out.  Then she got me through the California bar exam.  Her friend from high school, Trisha, lives here and was the one who saved me from hospital cafeteria food (i.e. imminent starvation) by taking me to the grocery store a few days after we got here.  Yesterday we sprung Suchitra from the hospital and drove her to Trisha's house, where we feasted on ice cream and Suchitra's favorite south Indian cuisine from a local restaurant.  What fun to get out of the hospital and into "real" life for a while.  Here we are with Heba.  It just occurred to me that now she's pretty much an expert in Helping Monica Survive Difficult Experiences.

Heba also took some pictures of us that will give you a sense of what we're up to.  Here we are in front of our wall of love (your cards and letters):

This is what we do for fun a lot of the time:  Uno!

Suchitra has a busy week of therapy ahead.  She will have three Lokomat sessions, Monday, Wednesday and Friday, I think.  Possibly some pool therapy as well now that her incision has healed enough so that she can be immersed in water.  I am so excited that my mom will be flying in tomorrow and staying for a whole week.